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doing something for yourself

Posted by An Idea on 4/30, 1:50 pm

Hey friends,

Listen I just wanted to comment on something or give a little advise for those of us that are feeling lost, hurt and very depressed.

In a relationship... after sometime things go from being two individuls to becoming an us.

We tend to lose sight of what we want as individuals first, and concentrate on what we thing is right to do in a relationship. For example, prior to a relationship, you may have had hobbies, sports, friends..whatever that you had for yourself. Things that interested you in a relationship... but when you are very involved, very in love with someone you lose your independencies on many levels... like personally, emotionally and time is lost also that you have for yourself.

Time... the one constant in the universe , that no person can change. But it is one your side.

Since you are now alone... lost and in pain, I challenge you to do something that you have always wanted to do. Whether your intentions would be to do that so the ex can see you doing something different or you actually want to do it for yourself. Because after sometime you will find out that it would be for yourself and no one else because its something that you wanted to do. For example... lose weight and workout, learn to play guitar, speak another language, go to school... anything you can think of.

I have done a few of these... and I will be honest with you all... I did them because I wanted the ex to see me doing them, and how I have changed... but after sometime, I really didn't care about that... because I was proud of myself sticking to something for me and no one else.

It's like in a relationship, when a boyfriend or girlfriend ask you to change something and you do, its doesn't have the real flavor of doing it for yourself rather than for someone else.

It's an empowering feeling, and you realize a few things from this... your self-worth, self-confidence and self-esteem... notice the self in front of everything. And that is what I feel its about, taking this pain you feel and manifesting it into something that we be productive to you, and only for you.

I know this sucks to hear, because it may even be difficult to get out of bed or hear these things... but it will work. Take care of yourself, and do what is right for you... be an individual, realize your potential... and never forget that the most important person in the world to take care of right now is you.

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